angry_cabbie

I don't know if you'll remember this, but around a year ago you did another AMA and I told you how rewatching it was the first time I laughed after my wife's recent passing. I then asked you to buy me and my crew members lunch.

You pulled through, and I've been thankful as fuck for the last year.

Would you be interested in knowing I'm doing much better this year? Still alive, finding ways to move on, even found myself a potential Chapter Two.

Gotta throw questions in to make this a viable post, and all.

Would you believe I almost got myself in trouble by quoting one of my favorite scenes from the movie? I ended up getting ahead of it, so no problems. But the two guys calling Mitch whacked for pretending to be Asian... Always makes me laugh, and thank you for that.

I am definitely the type to help others to avoid my own issues. What are some thoughts or resources I may be able to focus on to reduce this behavior?

To be fair, it has diminished in recent years; after spending some years taking care of a stroke-surviving partner and a death-bed marriage, I made it a point to focus on myself above all others for a while. But as time has moved forward, as I've moved forward through the grief and healed, some of those old patterns have been poking up again.

It has actually been a topic of conversation between myself and a recent partner; we both have the same tendency for the same basic cause, helping others helps us avoid our own problems (she's recovering from an abusive marriage, and this had been one of her coping mechanisms while in it).

Thank you so very f'ing much!