accidentalquitter

My mom has BPD. She’s been diagnosed with everything under the sun, but she’s very clearly boderline. She does not take any medication because she immediately finds a side effect or reason to not take it after a week or two. I am in therapy for dealing with her; when she is good she’s good, and when she’s bad she is the most difficult person on earth. Obsessed with controlling people’s decisions, fixates on the bad that could happen, no filter, and a total lack of self awareness at times. She says hurtful things. Her tone is negative. She complains about life 24/7 with no regard for how lucky she is and how bad off she could be. She’ll be 60 this year and unfortunately her attitude has made me really distance myself from her. I’d like to have a better relationship with her, but I know in order for us to be civil I have to speak with her less.

I also want to point out I notice a significant change in her personality when she has too much caffeine. Is this common in people with BPD?

Thanks!

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I am from Philadelphia, and I now live in NYC, and it seems that I cannot go a week without hearing of another opioid related death. The neighborhood I grew up in is riddled with oxy and heroin addicts, and they have been dropping like flies since 2007. My sister's former boyfriend, and my best friend's sister, died in the same week after a bad batch of heroin was dealt through the Northeast section of the city. Two brothers from my grade school died 3 years apart. My uncle died at 40 in February 2016.

My question to you is - how can we start the conversation about treating addiction in these areas in a realistic, non-threatening way? How do you address addiction with children who have lost parents and siblings at a young age, and make sure they're not following in the same path due to grief?

Thanks for all that you do!