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There's a perception that women wouldn't want to do porn unless they had to, and that men in the industry prey upon those women. But I've always hoped that at least some of them really liked it, and took the power for themselves rather than just being told what to do by men. But the perception persists that women just wouldn't really want to do this even though men might.

The question is: what are your attitudes about sex and the largely male-oriented focus of the industry? Is sex in your personal life significantly different from sex in the industry? How do you see the power dynamics and how do you feel about it all?

I've wanted to ask these things for years but have not known how to do so.

VG8819 karma

You don't think sex is easy, for $350k?

VG8810 karma

How does this work in porn where condoms are so infrequently used?

VG886 karma

Why the douchey response?

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Thank you so much for answering. You might not revisit this thread, but part of your answer threw me for an unexpected loop.

Sex in my personal life is not even the same activity. I need sex at home at least once a day, hopefully more than that, and it doesn't matter if I have worked or not. It's not even comparable.

I don't fully comprehend this, surely because I'm ignorant of how it is in these different types of sexual situations.

Are you saying it's emotionally different? Or that sex work is more of a performance, worrying about the scene and angles, so you're not really being physically intimate even though orgasms are involved?

Do these differences make a difference in how you view sex in terms of performance versus personal intimacy? Do people who see sex as too intimate to do with strangers in front of a camera perhaps conflate performative sex with intimate sex? Does it not seem like the same thing?

Or am I way off-base in these assumptions?

Again, thank you so much. I really hope you're able to come back to this one because I feel this might lead to a much better understanding of how it is that some people are fine doing sex work while most seem to think it's so far over the line of what they'd ever be willing to do.