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I'm diagnosed with autism and have been told that a big difference between me and other is that I have to learn social cues because Its not native to me and that NT's just 'know how to read social cues'. My rather long question is related and it would mean the world to me if you could tell me your opinion.

This theory that autistic people "can't"understand neuro typical cues has always surprised me. Whenever I see an adult NT women speak to her dog I think the same thing; the dog doesn't understand you, it isn't human, you can't put yourself into the shoes of others as much as I can't when I'm not aware of the psychology of others. It seems to me that everybody Autistic or not has to learn about social cues. My leading thoughts are that the problem with autistic children is that they just not spend as much time socially because it is too intense for them and that they simply get too little practice.

After a long journey of developing skills in the dating scene and learning from a true pro, in combination with a finite set of MDMA experiences, I personally find that my social difficulties are gone completely. I no longer have the same problems.

I wonder what you professional opinion is on the 'chronic handicap or inability' of autistic people to 'put themselves into the shoes of others'. That is at least how it is explained to me. Do you think people with autism have the potential of completely overcoming their social problems (all of them)? Except for the intense experience of them which leads to exhaustion perhaps more than for others.

May I personally recommend books by Tony Attwood? I know I'm not the original poster but I was diagnosed at 21 and his books helped me a lot, especially in the beginning of my experience in understanding more about myself.

I'm very appreciative of your reply but I am not sure if by 'handle social situations' you mean that we simply find 'a different way' to be social as compared to neurotypicals or just that whatever reason causes us to have difficulties in the first place are gone?

Please don't take this as a personal attack because this following point is not aimed towards you at all, but I always feel insulted when people tell me that 'i find a way to deal with it' where in my opinion, I found a way to solve the problem. I'm always unclear whether or not people (experts on the subject) tell mean that I have solved whatever underlying cause there was in the first place or simply found a way to work around it. Because I really see no difference with how I function socially as compared to other people.

Perhaps you could clarify.

Well I guess I'd have to let my brain be scanned by an fMRI to show if I really think differently now:). Thanks for you answers! I guess my main difficulty with these issues is that allthough in the example you give, the different ways of navigation don't really matter but in my perspective, the different ways of socializing tend to be interpreted in a sense where one is with truthful emotional intentions and the other form is more like how a computer would communicate. I don't say the things I say because I 'know' that I should say it. It isn't an act I put up in order to become social. I really feel that this is now an inherent need for my brain to be social like I never did before. Maybe the strategy is different but I always stress that it isn't as if I'm just robotically doing whatever another person would do. For as far as I know, the underlying motivations are the same.

But thanks for your insight!