Hi, I just wanted to thank you for saving my marriage. I've been a fan since I saw you on Tough Crowd and started listening to O&A a few years later.
A few years ago, while I was pregnant, my husband cheated on me during the "rock bottom" stage of his alcoholism. I found out when our kid was 3 weeks old. It took all I had to even listen to his pleas for forgiveness and understanding, but rather than grant it I kicked him to detox to get his shit together while I figured out if I cared whether he got better.
Once I let him come home, it was still a long horrible road to some kind of normalcy, during which time my stupid brain cycled through "what was wrong with me? Am I ugly? Did I get too fat? Is he going to do this again? Can he be a decent human being?" nonstop.
But during my hour long commute, i would listen to the show and your insight into the brains of men, an addict, and a fuckup really helped me step outside my own situation and heal. It wasn't easy, in fact it was the hardest thing I've ever done, but if not for you guys (and Patrice) dissecting the Tiger Woods scandal, i probably would have had a much harder time getting past the infidelity.
He's been sober over 4 years now and while we both annoy the fuck out of each other, we're a lot more honest with each other and ourselves about who we are and what we want/need.
You have really helped me embrace who he is, even with the bullshit. People are a lot more than their mistakes and weaknesses, and had i not figured that out, I would be single, (more) uptight, and probably lonely. Instead I'm happy, have the best sex of my life, and my kid has a functional father at home.
Did you ever imagine you'd be such a hero of the family unit?
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Hi, I just wanted to thank you for saving my marriage. I've been a fan since I saw you on Tough Crowd and started listening to O&A a few years later.
A few years ago, while I was pregnant, my husband cheated on me during the "rock bottom" stage of his alcoholism. I found out when our kid was 3 weeks old. It took all I had to even listen to his pleas for forgiveness and understanding, but rather than grant it I kicked him to detox to get his shit together while I figured out if I cared whether he got better.
Once I let him come home, it was still a long horrible road to some kind of normalcy, during which time my stupid brain cycled through "what was wrong with me? Am I ugly? Did I get too fat? Is he going to do this again? Can he be a decent human being?" nonstop.
But during my hour long commute, i would listen to the show and your insight into the brains of men, an addict, and a fuckup really helped me step outside my own situation and heal. It wasn't easy, in fact it was the hardest thing I've ever done, but if not for you guys (and Patrice) dissecting the Tiger Woods scandal, i probably would have had a much harder time getting past the infidelity.
He's been sober over 4 years now and while we both annoy the fuck out of each other, we're a lot more honest with each other and ourselves about who we are and what we want/need.
You have really helped me embrace who he is, even with the bullshit. People are a lot more than their mistakes and weaknesses, and had i not figured that out, I would be single, (more) uptight, and probably lonely. Instead I'm happy, have the best sex of my life, and my kid has a functional father at home.
Did you ever imagine you'd be such a hero of the family unit?
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