ThrowawayMyBitches

As a person in the BDSM/poly/swinger scene who has both attended and hosted parties:

If you can't deal with seeing people you find unattractive naked, you will have a hard time finding partners.

No one likes to be told they're ugly, either by others' words OR actions, and most people in the scene find it a huge turnoff if you're anything other than respectful about other people's bodies.

An environment conducive to sexy parties and gatherings is a delicate thing. If even 10% of the people there are uncomfortable, it can easily limit or even ruin the whole evening. So it's in everyone's best interest to keep the space welcoming and judgement-free.

You don't have to find someone attractive or play with them. You can always say no to anything (and anyone who tells you different is someone to never play with again). But you need to be respectful and not body snark- especially behind people's backs (the thought process is "If he/she is so nasty about this guy/girl, what will they say about me when I can't hear them?").

Plus, "attractive" is a highly subjective concept. What's gorgeous to you may be disgusting to another, and tastes vary wildly not just from person to person, but also at different times in those people's lives. This is especially so in the BDSM scene, where individual tastes often evolve- not just in who a specific person finds attractive, but also what they like to do sexually (and what they don't).

And to be honest, most of the highly skilled people I've "played" with aren't conventionally attractive. If I had turned them away based solely on their looks, I would never of had the pleasure of those experiences.

TL;DR:

Be respectful. Rating people "brutally" is counterproductive to fun sexytimes and makes you look like a jerk. A better way to ask this question would have been: "Are there a lot of conventionally attractive people there?"

Maybe. But IMHO I'd rather be paid by the hour 'cause it's more stable and doesn't encourage "extras".

Damn! That sounds like my dream job. I'm a bit of an exhibitionist and I love to dance, so I've always wanted to strip. But the clubs around me are all high-contact type places (stage-as-advertising-for-lapdances rather than stage for it's own sake), and that's really not my cup of tea :(

Did you make enough on stage that you didn't have to do private stuff/lap dances? Or was that required?

There's this dude that goes to my school who has a carbon fiber wheelchair. Fucking awesome right? I want to talk to him about how awesome it is but I'm worried I might put my foot in my mouth. If I were to approach you to talk about your chair, how could I do it in a respectful way?