TheUnSlutProject

Yes, unfortunately. Recently in the US and in Canada, girls have committed suicide after being intensely bullied as a "slut" - in some cases, after being the victim of rape. It was those events that convinced me to start this project.

That makes me really sad to hear. It sounds a lot like what happened to me. I would encourage her to get involved in activities where she can use her talents and develop what she's good at (to boost her self-esteem), and perhaps that get her out of the toxic school environment for at least part of the day. I'd try to help her realize that SHE determines who she is, NOT the boys who are harassing her. Although it's hard for school administrators to step into specific situations (sometimes this works, but it can cause damage as well), I think all schools should get some training on how to create an environment where sexual bullying is not tolerated. Among adults OR among the students. If acting that way got the boys banned from the "popular" crowd, they'd be a lot less likely to continue.

I definitely don't think it's fine for anyone to "sleep around" (or have sex at all, really) before they're emotionally able to cope with it. But I also don't think anyone should be calling a young person a slut in order to shame her.

It caused me a LOT of anxiety, and I seriously considered committing suicide at many different points. My parents, teachers, and guidance counselors reached out to me at different points, but I was too ashamed to confide in them. If something like The UnSlut Project had existed, I would have found comfort in knowing that other women had gone through similar situations and gone on to lead successful, happy lives. That's why I started the project - to provide what I didn't have to girls today.

Yes, I would defend you. I can see friends advising each other against getting involved with you if you were dishonest about your intentions with other women, but if you and they just like to have sex, I don't think anyone should bother you about it.