TheRecklessOne

I'm not the therapist, but you've said you're in the closet about being gay/bisexual AND that you're worried curing homophobic thoughts will make you homosexual?

If you already know you're gay/bisexual but you haven't told anyone, then you're homosexual regardless of wether you have homophobic thoughts or not.

If I'm misunderstanding and you're saying you're straight but have homophobic thoughts then no, curing the thoughts will not make you homosexual.

What actually scares you about LGBTQ things? Are you intimidated by them? Excited and then feel shameful? Do you just find the agenda annoying? Breaking it down and taking some time to think about it might help you in the long run.

Whatever happens wether you realise you're attracted to men or not, nothing changes. You're still you. You're still the same person you've always been.

yeah, be careful with that. This afdvice is only going to work in a relationship where both people are thinking the same thing; that's why it becomes such a loving relationship.

For instance, a friend once said to me when I was concerned that I was the one always giving in a relationship, rather than it being 50/50; "you need to be with someone who is willing to give you 80%", so I was like "well....no, because I enjoy giving so much, I don't want to be sat there only giving 20%" and he said "exactly. so you would both give 80% and the relationship would be off the scale"

That's how it should work.

ha, me and an ex used to kiss every time we were stopped at traffic lights. One day we saw another couple do it. It was a nice moment!