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I can kind of comment here as someone who’s had 2 early miscarriages. It helps to acknowledge that this is an awful situation, not just a pity party, and please don’t try to point out a ‘silver lining’.

When waiting for my D&C several of the nurses and OR staff told me about miscarriages themselves and others had, and that most of them went on to have healthy pregnancies later. It felt like they understood what I was going through, we’re there for me, and gave me a glimmer of hope that this was just a one-off and hopefully not a trend.

Someone (I think the OB) commented “at least you know you can get pregnant”. I have mixed feelings on this one. Yes, struggling with fertility is exhausting and I’m thankful that’s not a significant issue we have... but it seemed to belittle the pain and emotions I was experiencing, that I should be grateful I at least had a miscarriage. Is it worse to have got pregnant and lost it, or never to have gotten pregnant at all? Don’t make someone play that mind game.

After my second MC, while waiting for my D&C, one of the nurses popped in to drop off a small teddy bear that was donated by the early pregnancy loss program. She left right away which was great because I immediately ugly-cried. It was nice to have external acknowledgment that what we were going through was a real pregnancy that could have been a child, not just a blob of cells my body wouldn’t get rid of. It’s nice to just know that someone other than us thinks it counts, that it matters.

Thanks for that. ❤️

Currently waiting to see if #3 is viable or not, it’s been a rough road.

Do you do events for kids? Around what age does this style of activity get interesting?

Most (if not all) AMAs are advertising. I find this fascinating and he is giving people ideas to help them design their own stuff. Seems to be providing more benefit than harm.