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Fuck I hate this. I came here to read the questions and answers, don't bloody down vote all the answers.

People coming in to do one shot AMAs don't give a shit about karma, but now I have to fuck about going to their page and hitting 'context' for every answer, instead of just reading the thread.

And aside from that, if the FFC wants to come and make an ass of itself here? Make it visible.

Bloody reddit.

Edit: people please. Stop with the 'but it we upvote the answers they'll take it as support!' crap. Newsflash for you all: nobody outside of reddit gives a shit about karma. It does not mean a damn thing. If the answer was visible and all replies to it were pointing out the flaws of it? That sends a much better message.

But what has happened here is it's difficult to view the answers and even more difficult to view the follow up comments to those answers. So yeah, we can see a collated view of the questions and answers (if we look for it, though I notice someone above me has now linked it). But we cannot browse the thread normally and see questions, answers and discussion about those answers, all nicely organised by the most popular questions in a single page.

Basically, stop treating the downvote butting as an 'I hate you' or 'I disagree' button. It does not contribute anything and makes us come across as an intolerant and angry community.

Too many guys forget that we're (often) much bigger and stronger than our partners. If you're angry that can be intimidating even if you would never lay a hand on them in a million years.

Good thing to be aware of, we all argue.. no need to intimidate even if it's accidental.

Conversations like this are why I never, ever say "it's technically possible". Because they hear "we can do it exactly how you imagine".

Now I say "nope, you can't draw red lines with green ink". That's it. Every rephrasing of the question presented (which is all that ever follows after I say no) is met with the same answer.. "nope, that's not possible, to achieve what you want you have to do this instead".

IT people have a bad habit of thinking that when someone says "well is it technically possible?" they're being tested on technical knowledge and are supposed to provide a theoretical solution. This never ends well.

And while I'm sure that approach has cost me a few clients, not following it never ends well regardless.

As someone who was most definitely suffering from addiction to certain games many years ago before it was really recognised, for me it was like this.

Have a very important, stressful thing I need to do > ignore it and play game because it's an escape/stress relief > associate game with happy fun times > life deteriorates because I'm not doing anything but playing game > escape from this fact by playing more of game.

The difference was that my life didn't suck and therefore I played a lot of games, my life was actively getting worse because I was ignoring responsibilities/not taking any steps to fix things in life... because I was gaming instead. I was picking it up to ignore life, to get those dopamine hits, and to make myself feel better, but all it was doing was making things worse. Much the same way an addict will reach for a needle because things are hard or stressful, I would do that for games. And, just like a drug addict discovers when the high goes away? When I logged off, shit hadn't magically gotten better. So then I had a choice... either do the hard thing and work to fix it, or pretend it wasn't there and play games all day and night instead.

Took me a while to kick, had to give up a few games to do it and really focus on education/work for a couple years. But now I'm back to being a gamer, just one who puts life and work before games.

You could google the case, or accept that if you want his personal perspective on his most memorable case that you should buy his book.

He's given plenty of interesting answers.. but he wants to sell his book so of course "what is the most interesting/memorable X" questions specifically related to his books topic will be vague.

I mean if you ask what his favourite vegtable is and he said "what a coincidence, I cover that in my book!" then OK, fair point. Otherwise.... seems like he's being perfectly reasonable.