SolidBones610 karma2020-12-01 14:56:35 UTC
Hello fellow bereaved parents
We learned out first child had a series of brain anomalies not compatible with life before birth and chose to have a late term abortion. We've since had two children who are doing fine, but there was a 3 year gap in between.
During that time, we were left with a problem: children who've lost all parents are "orphans", but parents who've lost all children have no title. We didn't feel right calling ourselves parents....but what were we? What was I supposed to say if people asked if I had any children or planned to have any (which happened a lot)?
What terms have you heard people use? What terms do you use? How do you answer these questions? I feel this would also be helpful to people who have tried and lost.
View HistoryShare Link
SolidBones574 karma2021-02-01 19:21:30 UTC
How do you feel about your donor being anonymous? Do you miss or grieve for wanting to thank their family? Or is it a relief?
SolidBones206 karma2014-10-28 17:15:58 UTC
You're fucking welcome because you deserve it, studly!
SolidBones132 karma2020-12-01 17:11:40 UTC
You stole some of those words right out of my head. Especially about not wanting to ruin people's days. The nice old lady at the register in the grocery store is someone I really don't want to regale my story to. She's just making small talk, and I don't want to make it big talk.
SolidBones91 karma2019-07-18 10:29:51 UTC
For some reason I expected this website to open a page that just says "No you don't. Stop it."
Copyright © 2014 BestofAMA.com, All rights reserved.
reddit has not approved or endorsed BestofAMA, reddit design elements are trademarks of reddit inc.