I just want to say that you did the most important thing you could do for him: You set aside your own pain in order to be there for him. When my son was born, he had malformed stomach and intestinal muscles that led to a softball sized mass in his intestines. Not even air could move through his intestines. The surgery was a success, and he's now a year old and doing great, but the days we spent in NICU were torture. There were so many babies there that had no one. No visitors, nobody came to hold them, touch them or talk to them. So many parents that couldn't set aside their own pain in order to come spend a few minutes with their own child. There was one little boy that stayed across the aisle from my son and never had a visitor. The nurses said his mother abandoned him there after the first time she visited him. I couldn't believe it. I spent every day praying that this would be the day we would get to hold him, or the day we would hear when he would be able to come home, and other people were leaving their babies there because they weren't perfect.
Your love made so much of a difference in his world. I hope that is something that you have come to realize, and I know that he was aware of you and how much you cared for him. Thank you for having the guts to be there for him, even in the midst of your own pain. It takes an extremely strong person to watch their child suffer and not let the pain break them permanently.
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I just want to say that you did the most important thing you could do for him: You set aside your own pain in order to be there for him. When my son was born, he had malformed stomach and intestinal muscles that led to a softball sized mass in his intestines. Not even air could move through his intestines. The surgery was a success, and he's now a year old and doing great, but the days we spent in NICU were torture. There were so many babies there that had no one. No visitors, nobody came to hold them, touch them or talk to them. So many parents that couldn't set aside their own pain in order to come spend a few minutes with their own child. There was one little boy that stayed across the aisle from my son and never had a visitor. The nurses said his mother abandoned him there after the first time she visited him. I couldn't believe it. I spent every day praying that this would be the day we would get to hold him, or the day we would hear when he would be able to come home, and other people were leaving their babies there because they weren't perfect.
Your love made so much of a difference in his world. I hope that is something that you have come to realize, and I know that he was aware of you and how much you cared for him. Thank you for having the guts to be there for him, even in the midst of your own pain. It takes an extremely strong person to watch their child suffer and not let the pain break them permanently.
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