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This is a good one. I'm writing from the perspective of a manual (self push) wheelchair, as electric chairs are very different. Also not OP.

• Assuming you have or can build good upper body strength, the first one is speed! I can 'run' for a bus so much faster than anyone else. It's hard to get up a hill, but you can scream down the other side as long as you have good control. And if you get really tired, someone will be happy to give you a push. No-one will pick you up and carry you if you get tired walking!

• Always getting a comfortable seat. A full time wheelchair user will normally have a setup like OP and I (presuming they can afford it) with an active user chair made to fit them and a supportive cushion. Never sit on a stinky train seat or hard wooden bench again!

• Skate parks. No skateboard? No problem! Wear a helmet, mouth guard and pads though. Everyone should wear these but in a chair, you won't put your hands out to save yourself, so you're going to land on your knees, elbows...or chin. I like having teeth.

• You can decorate your chair and look fucking awesome. I normally have monkeylights on my wheels and small headlights on the front. I also decorate it for the seasons, cobwebs and bats for Halloween, tinsel and fairylights for Christmas, you get the idea.

• When drunk, you're never going to fall on your arse.

• People love going shopping with you, as there's normally a larger changing room for chairs and if you're a good friend, I'll let you dump stuff on my lap in exchange for a push. Similarly you will often get to skip the normal lines with friends if the main entrance is not wheelie accessible, as the people who run these things don't tend to make you go in alone which is really nice of them.

• My chair has a pocket on the back and underneath to hide all my shit in. No need to carry a bag or stuff your clothes pockets, hide it all in my wheels!

Oh man. Sorry but you're going to struggle whatever you do. Some tips though:

• Your cushion. You are probably currently using a flat foam cushion with a polyester cover. Get or make a spare cover and wash them regularly, handwashing in an antibacterial soap is fine. Look into a leg-moulded piece of foam if your doctor consents, this sounds counterproductive but I actually found it helped a lot. YMMV obviously. You do get cushions specially designed for airflow like Supracore but for two months they are far too expensive. They are too expensive for me as a full-time user!

• Replace your seat back if possible, with stiff mesh. It does need to be stiff as you need the support for your back. If you can't replace the whole back, make or get someone to make a lightly padded mesh 'cushion' for the centre of the backrest. It will lift the centre of your back forwards slightly and allow the air to circulate around the sides and through the mesh to the centre of your back.

• If your chair's back adjusts, get it lowered. If it doesn't adjust but folds back (normally to fit in a car) fold it down whenever you're not moving. It's normally a button on each side and just clicks up and down.

• Clothing. Wear cotton underwear and trousers/skirts. If you can get it pure silk underwear is great, and feels luxurious even after your injury has healed! Trim pubic hair if you have it. Use unscented baby powder with a cornstarch base, but if female keep it away from your vagina. Some people use antipersperant down there, personally that's not something I've done so ask your pharmacist.

• Take baby wipes to freshen up when out and about. Lovely and cooling. If you're continually getting sweaty and sticky consider taking a spare pair of shorts and underwear to change halfway through the day.

All the best with your recovery!

Article here. (Warning, self playing video.) Can't tell you how furious I was when I found out some dickheads were doing that. Absolute tits ruining it for everyone else.

I found the system they came up with in place is pretty fair. You get a ticket with a time on it, leave and come back. Great for those who cannot wait in long lines, unfortunately it still penalises those who cannot spend hours in the park at a time. They previously would have been able to come for a half day instead and still get some rides in. But thanks to some knucklefucks...I would say I hope they're damned ashamed of themselves but as they were pulling this stunt in the first place, I doubt they're capable of shame.

Can I suggest you head over and post at /r/BDSMcommunity? Very helpful, friendly folks. If you are completely not into kinky play and she can't go without it, you will probably have to part ways I'm afraid. If you don't know whether you're interested or not, the BDSM people can give advice on where to find out more about domination or on how to start very gently if you want to try it out. I don't want to go into a big post here in case you're not interested but feel free to PM me if you like (I'm a Dom). The most important thing is that you must do what you're interested in too, please don't be a dominant just to make her happy as it's not going to make you happy and the relationship won't last.

The girl probably didn't give you any signs because kinky people tend to hide it, due to the negative reactions they often come across. That this girl is now being honest about her desires shows she has relaxed enough to trust you with them so you're doing something right!

I would advise not paying attention to TofuTofu's advice, not only do you not need to see a sex therapist (not being into domination is hardly something you need therapy for!) some of his other advice is seriously dodgy. Condoms are always a good idea though!

Why is it so important to you to have biological children instead of adopted ones? I ask as someone who also won't be taking the risk of passing my rubbish onto my kids.