Oldfriendoldproblem

First of all, I'm so sorry for your diagnosis. I feel for you deeply.

A month ago, my partner was diagnosed with a very rare kind of cancer. We've been told it's not terminal (yet), but incurable. My partner is staying extremely positive and making every day count. I, on the other hand, have slipped into a deep depression that I'm not sure I'll ever get past. It's putting a huge strain on our relationship and I fear we won't make it through this.

How did the people closest to you react? Did any of their reactions make things harder on you? Can you offer any advice on how to deal with the darker days, if you had any? I am just struggling so much right now. Thank you.

First off, I'm really sorry. My partner has an extremely rare sarcoma as well. I know how hard it can be to get answers when there's very little data available. I always thought medicine was such an exact science, but this has truly shown me how little we really know.

I have a couple questions:

1. What kind of treatment do they have you on? Interested in what the first line of defense is for your particular sarcoma compared to my partner.

2. I try my best to support my partner, but I feel like I'm always doing or saying the wrong thing. What have you found to be the best support you've received during this time? Have there been times when people mean well, but their 'brand' of support just wasn't how you wanted to be supported? What could they have done differently?

Trust me when I say I'll be thinking of you. I wish you all the best, stay strong. ❤️