Nova5269

Oh yeah, I understand it not being one of those things you can just "move on" from. The problem we're facing right now is it was an ex who abused her for years, and she used to feel like she couldn't even think something she disagreed with without him somehow knowing, he had so much control over here. I'm fairly certain she's downplaying what happened because it's easier to deal with if she lies to herself, but feeling she doesn't deserve help because of other people have it worse is the hurdle we're at right now in her healing process.

I really respect what you've done, I've convinced my girlfriend to browse some forums built to support the abused to see that people that have the same troubling thoughts and glass ceilings she does in her recovery. She's been through some really horrible things, but she's read other people's stories and feels that since others have it worse she needs to "stop being a baby" and she doesn't feel she deserves to complain. Did you ever have those thoughts? That someone has it worse than you so why do you have the right get help? I've tried telling her there will always be someone who has it worse so does that mean no one would ever get help? She sees my point, but I feel it's not as impactful coming from someone who hasn't gone through that.