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NicoleJHB58 karma

As I’m currently watching my 4 year old having a hard time adapting on his preschools camera access system, this AMA pops up in my notifications.

My son was with me at home from birth until this last week when he started full-time preschool, so he could adapt, learn and socialize, and I could go back to work full time. The morning drop offs are absolutely rough, as he is full blown crying and trying to run out of the door after me. I feel like I am damaging his trust and creating a sense of abandonment when I have to leave him. When I watch him on the camera, he will sit in the corner and isolate himself, not really wanting to interact with any other children. Today, at the suggestion of his teacher, he was allowed to bring in one stuffed toy from home to comfort himself during the day, and he promised to actively participate, but I’m watching his carry it around and trying to isolate again.

When I pick him up at the end of the day, he’s all chipper and tells me he has a good day, but it’s hard to determine what to believe from how he acts at morning drop offs and when I view him during the day.

Is there another way we could handle this so he’s not upset and I don’t feel like I’m hurting his mental well-being? He has always been an emotional soul, and I see empathic traits in him.

NicoleJHB22 karma

We start our morning with cuddles in bed, then breakfast before I drop him off. I always try to make the goodbyes quick, with a hug, kiss, and “I love you” before I’m off, but it feels terrible hearing his bawl and scream for me all the way as I run out of the building. He’s a very bright boy and the last thing I would want is for him to start resenting school!

NicoleJHB10 karma

Surprisingly, he’s my second. My first was all about school. I would drop her off and barely got a goodbye, she would practically push me out the door!

NicoleJHB9 karma

That’s a good suggestion. Just approach and discuss the routine of the day very nonchalantly. I’m going to try this tomorrow morning as we get ready. Thank you!

NicoleJHB5 karma

Oh that is hysterical!