NewSwiss

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I got goosebumps

"Primarily" does not mean "solely". It seems fair to say that, on average, men will prioritize sex over intimacy. This isn't to say that all men have this priority, nor is it to say that the desire for intimacy isn't a close second (or primary in many men).

If the meds are killing her desire you can talk about how she can choose desire instead of waiting for it to happen. Many women don't get "in the mood" until they become aroused. How can she lean into intimacy and affection instead of waiting for the desire to naturally occur in the relationship.

Just to expand on this, just because someone isn't in the mood to begin with, doesn't mean they won't enjoy it. It's like convincing someone to go to and event with you when they don't feel like leaving the house. If you can remind them that they always have a good time at the event, that may be enough to get them out the door.

Can someone fill in those of us who aren't in on the joke?

it makes me feel like maybe she's not having a good time at the event

Ah, now that is something you need to have a conversation about (however difficult/awkward it may be). It may be a mis-perception, but if true, there may be changes you can make to remedy this.

EDIT: it's worth adding that if the meds are really preventing her from enjoying "the event", it is worth talking to a doctor about it, as there may be alternatives.