NerdInACan

My issue I have with coaching is that it tends to reenforce the false idea that a person’s value is measured by their bank account. In other words, if a person is not earning a certain dollar amount, they are not living up to their full value. This idea is detrimental because most peoples income/bank balance is going to fluctuate throughout their entire life. Just because a person’s income is low, does not mean they are not a person of value, or living up to their value.

My second issue I have is that coaching seems to encourage people to make friends with people only if it helps advance their career and/or social status. Once those people are not helping anyone, it seems that a lot of coaches teach their clients that their friends are “toxic” and they need to move on. Don’t you think friendship should be based compassion and empathy?

Also, why such a dependency on “positive thinking”? Nor everything in life is positive, or can even have a positive spin. That said, that doesn’t mean that a person can’t deal and over come a challenge. Telling people to feel a certain way before they take in a challenge may actually keep someone from taking on that challenge that could lead to growth.

It just seems to me that a lot of coaching (not all) is based on feel good catch phrases, and a “what’s in it for me” philosophy. I’m interested in hearing your thoughts on this.

Full disclosure, I am a white cis male, so I am not going to assume to know what the "working world" is like for people. I understand that people feel stuck, and look for help and I have nothing but compassion for them. Hell, I was there and then I read "You Are a Badass" by Jen Sincero. I can tell you, from my own perspective, that book isn't worth the paper that it is printed on! She tells you that the universe is looking after you. To me, that screams scam artist.

A lot of people want a magical fix. Something I find interesting is that a large amount of people will work hard at their job, but still can't figure out why they are unhappy. The thing is, people also have to work hard on themselves, and that doesn't mean just do yoga.