NeatRepeat

" BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space exclusively for people without Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) to process and discuss the challenges and abuse faced in current or previous relationships with a BPD loved one."

The rules include not allowing anyone diagnosed with bpd or any personality disorders to participate even if they are being abused by another person with bpd and "no experts" which I assume includes drs.

A lot of the posts are people looking for help or support which fair enough nothing wrong with that and I'm glad there's a place for it

but to me as an abuse survivor my abusers diagnosis doesn't mean anything to me because abuse is wrong regardless of diagnosis and focusing on it so intently and splitting the world into PW bpd (evil soulless abusers) and people without bpd (never abusive and always the victims of pwbpd) seems dangerous and misinformed

loads of posts and responses are people talking about how people with bpd are "incapable of love or caring for other people" or "have dead eyes like psychopaths" which seems reductive and dehumanising and less about healing

There are also a lot of people armchair diagnosing people in their lives or on dating apps with bpd

What's your opinion on subs like bpdlovedones - do you think these help people or make things worse ? Also have you gotten any hate for being open about your diagnosis either online or offline?

This. Last time it was a fake domestic violence charity and this time its a fake coronavirus one