I have stretch marks on my back. They aren't as severe as yours, but I still felt like shit for about a year and a half about them. Really shit. I didn't tell anyone about them, out of fear or shame or whatever it was.
I looked it up on google and read somewhere that stretch marks start to fade after a while. About a year after I first noticed them, I looked at my reflection and thought "I think they've started to fade."
Now I'm not so sure whether they have really faded... or if I just don't care anymore. I don't look at them. Or maybe I do look at them... but I don't remember it like I used to, I don't think about it all day, I don't think about it at any point in the day. When I used to look in the mirror I would run my hand across my back and feel them and think "Fuuuuck" but now it's different. I don't even know what I feel when I do that with my hands now, I just know that I do it.
I remember the first girl I got with after I noticed them asked what was going on with my back and I just said "Nothing sinister, they're just stretch marks" and she said "Oh, everyone's got those" and then we had a fun night together. I couldn't believe it was that simple, but it is! Nobody thinks it's important (and if they do, why would you even want to be near that person?) There's nothing to feel bad about if you don't worry about it, and there's nothing to worry about in the first place. I'm not going to let something out of my control get into my life like that. I think about what I want in life, and the stretch marks on my back are not a part of that story. They aren't me. They're irrelevant.
I hope you get better, but even if things don't change for a while, there's no reason to feel bad about it. You are still beautiful, you just need to look at yourself from a different perspective.
That part may actually be difficult. During that part of my life I was starting to write, and starting to smoke weed and take other drugs like MDMA. I'm not saying you should do the same thing as me, but you should do whatever works for you, whatever puts you in a place outside of where you'd normally go that lets you see yourself in a different way. I think that girl who just said "Everyone's got those" before we kissed helped most of all. I've never gone to a therapist but that would probably do the trick as well. Whatever works for you, and lets you realise for yourself that "I've been fine this whole time".
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I have stretch marks on my back. They aren't as severe as yours, but I still felt like shit for about a year and a half about them. Really shit. I didn't tell anyone about them, out of fear or shame or whatever it was.
I looked it up on google and read somewhere that stretch marks start to fade after a while. About a year after I first noticed them, I looked at my reflection and thought "I think they've started to fade."
Now I'm not so sure whether they have really faded... or if I just don't care anymore. I don't look at them. Or maybe I do look at them... but I don't remember it like I used to, I don't think about it all day, I don't think about it at any point in the day. When I used to look in the mirror I would run my hand across my back and feel them and think "Fuuuuck" but now it's different. I don't even know what I feel when I do that with my hands now, I just know that I do it.
I remember the first girl I got with after I noticed them asked what was going on with my back and I just said "Nothing sinister, they're just stretch marks" and she said "Oh, everyone's got those" and then we had a fun night together. I couldn't believe it was that simple, but it is! Nobody thinks it's important (and if they do, why would you even want to be near that person?) There's nothing to feel bad about if you don't worry about it, and there's nothing to worry about in the first place. I'm not going to let something out of my control get into my life like that. I think about what I want in life, and the stretch marks on my back are not a part of that story. They aren't me. They're irrelevant.
I hope you get better, but even if things don't change for a while, there's no reason to feel bad about it. You are still beautiful, you just need to look at yourself from a different perspective.
That part may actually be difficult. During that part of my life I was starting to write, and starting to smoke weed and take other drugs like MDMA. I'm not saying you should do the same thing as me, but you should do whatever works for you, whatever puts you in a place outside of where you'd normally go that lets you see yourself in a different way. I think that girl who just said "Everyone's got those" before we kissed helped most of all. I've never gone to a therapist but that would probably do the trick as well. Whatever works for you, and lets you realise for yourself that "I've been fine this whole time".
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