MrStonedOne

What would one constrictive criticism of the men's human rights movement be?

(be it the mhrm on reddit at /r/mensrights, avoiceformen.com, or the mhrm in general.)

Thank for you response Dr Farrell, (and thank you for all of the work you have, are, or going to do, including this Q and A session.).

You are right, we have to ensure the movement's spaces foster both motivation, and non-echo conversion. I only wonder how one would go about achieving this in a non-monolithic Laissez-faire like environment.

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Quote of the listening skill-set he is referring to for quick reference:

the first place to start is with communication skills. the Achilles' heel of humans is our inability to handle personal criticism from a loved one without becoming defensive. historically, when we heard criticism, we feared it might be an enemy, so we "got up our defenses" or tried to kill the criticizer before they killed us. this was functional for survival, but dysfunctional for intimacy. so we must have communication skills training not just for expressing feelings better but for doing a workaround in our brain that allows us to associate personal criticism with an opportunity to be love. for example, when we hear someone effectively, we know they will feel safe expressing themselves. when they feel safe, they feel loved, and that leads them to loving us more.

that type of reprogramming our response to criticism leads to better quality marriages, therefor fewer divorces, fewer people in family court, and a family court system that is not adversarial but collaborative.

we must all be part of a process of encouraging our daughters to value boys and men who have the potential for being good dads; and encourage our sons to babysit, take care of their siblings, and "cheer" them on for that like we cheer on our son who scores a touchdown.

those type of personal changes will shift the foundation. finally, boys and men must do what women did to create changes: read, think, talk about our common experiences, organize...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=Cyr1KRodPYg#t=260s <--- the 1st part of him screaming at the bitch. best part of the heckle

what i love about this interview style is that it allows me to say what i feel in some depth, rather than have one summarize what i feel in a way that doesn't represent it.

You should do it again in a few months. Louis CK has done 3 (or more) and i know Carl Sagan Degrasse Tyson has done a few and all were really active with little repletion.

rather than have one summarize what i feel in a way that doesn't represent it.

Sadly, It might still happen, im sure the marxism/feminism subreddit /r/ShitRedditSays is already working on that.

So are you advocating that women stop drinking?

Really? So should we just pretend that male victims don't exist? That they shouldn't have protections from being taken advantage of while drunk?