MerryMaryMeriwether

It’s a culmination of dealing with everyone’s bullshit your entire life, while being expected to put the comfort of others, even strangers, ahead of your own, to be a smiling face with a kind word, no matter how others treated you.

I felt this hard once I turned 40. When I hit 45, it intensified. Go ahead and call me Karen, but I’m not eating another steak that’s well-done when I ordered medium rare and fuck you and your manager if you don’t like that.

No offense taken. I upvoted you. The “fuck you” was for the collective, not you personally.

I have a friend who left a very conservative church after her spouse passed, the sort of church where women aren’t allowed to wear pants or dance or have short hair. She’s currently in the desert, rocking a pixie, and in a relationship with a woman. Her children say she’s delusional but maybe are salty that she’s not the woman they thought they knew. I don’t know. I wonder if the more repressed you are, the more that spews out when the pressure is finally released.

But if your mil is truly delusional, that’s something else entirely. Finally focusing on yourself shouldn’t involve lies and damage to other people. I see now that you’re asking about a truly pathological change.

How do you distinguish between psychological/behavioral causes and hormonal/physical imbalances?

What sort of hormonal testing should woman who are experiencing struggles with midlife request from their GPs?

What resources, such as books or podcasts, do you find yourself recommending most often to women with midlife struggles?