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Any tip on how to get better at compartmentalization? My partner is struggling from work related burn-out and often thinking about work related matters (manager at a restaurant) on her off hours and weekends. She will often comment on how she "just needs a break." I try and talk to her about compartmentalization and leaving work at work, but then the excuses come flying: "but I have to figure this out or else....," "if I don't do this tonight...," "I didn't have time to do this earlier because xyz," "I have to go take inventory on the weekend because I'm better at it." These kinds of things...

I do some "well, if you weren't to figure that out tonight, what's the cost/worst thing that could happen" to try and help do some reality testing on prioritization and assessment of urgency. But more justifications come flying.

So, yeah, I guess this is a 2 parter...the question above on tips for helping a partner suffering from burn out compartmentalize better. and 2, any tips for me, as the parter trying to support her?

Thanks!

First and foremost, thank you for your selfless act to shield your friends. Thank you for coming on here to help answer some questions. Both of these, and I imagine everything between the two events, are such brave acts. Your actions speak volumes to your character. Also, super glad you and yours are ok. Also hoping you have the resources to get psychological support to deal with the ptsd of such an event. It will be work taking to a therapist about your experience. That's a whole different subject though.

There has been a lot of information being put out surrounding these events. Information that lands on a spectrum, sometimes not being accurate. There are some reports of multiple shooters. I see you mention in this post how you could discern that different gums were used during the different vollies. Did it, at any point, sound like more than one gun at a time was firing?

Edit: just saw your reply down below saying you believed there to be multiple shooters as it was happening. That's what I wanted to know. But I'm gonna leave this post here anyway

great tips...yeah, I trend towards the logic and problem solving part a bit too quickly. I'm going to try and give some more time between the "that sucks" and solutions. I have been trying to incorporate some foot massages and other somatic exercises to bring focus into the body. But yeah, totally get that once the frontal lobe is out to lunch we gotta wait a bit.