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MadaRook6 karma

If someone is hiding their habit from their family out of shame and guilt, is it a good idea to tell them you are aware of their drug habits? (Meth) I am her brother and about to move away from my parents home (1000+ miles), and she is staying with my elderly parents.

She moved back home 2-3 months ago, and I noticed very shortly after she arrived that she was using again. When her friend visited her, she found her with the stuff red-handed and my sister told her she feels extreme shame and guilt, and that she would rather not be sober. Also told her she is fine as long as she has supply, and can hold off on it a bit.

She promised me to care for our parents and I trust her with that, and I'm worried about her mental health deteriorating. Yet I hope caring for our parents will give her more reason to face her habit.

I intend to let her know before I leave I have known, and also let her know I accept and care about her, and I'll be here when she's ready to be clean.

I'm not sure about this approach, perhaps I should go without telling her I knew of her habit.

Thank you for any perspective or insight you can share.

(I copied my comment and replied to you in hopes you could help me with some insight or perspective. We live in the USA)

MadaRook1 karma

If someone is hiding their habit from their family out of shame and guilt, is it a good idea to tell them you are aware of their drug habits? (Meth) I am her brother and about to move away from my parents home (1000+ miles), and she is staying with my elderly parents.

She moved back home 2-3 months ago, and I noticed very shortly after she arrived that she was using again. When her friend visited her, she found her with the stuff red-handed and my sister told her she feels extreme shame and guilt, and that she would rather not be sober. Also told her she is fine as long as she has supply, and can hold off on it a bit.

She promised me to care for our parents and I trust her with that, and I'm worried about her mental health deteriorating. Yet I hope caring for our parents will give her more reason to face her habit.

I intend to let her know before I leave I have known, and also let her know I accept and care about her, and I'll be here when she's ready to be clean.

I'm not sure about this approach, perhaps I should go without telling her I knew of her habit.

Thank you for any perspective or insight you can share.