Libertarian1986

This will probably get buried but I hope you see it. There is a charity http://www.mollybears.com/ They make teddy bears to help you remember the baby you lost. They weigh them the same weight as your baby so you have something to hold.

When I lost my son, the worst part was having empty arms, they literally ached to hold him. I haven't gotten my bear yet because they are a new charity and are in need of funds, but they open up the list on the last day of the month and you can sign up and they will get to you.

As a parent that has lost a child as well, let me say that you and your wife didn't deserve this. It's not fair, and it's the shittiest thing that could happen. I'm not religious, but I will be thinking of your family and hoping that you can find small glimmers of happiness during this dark time.

I have had to bury my child. He was 9 days old and only a few pounds. At the time we just went with whoever I could get an appointment with since it was so emotional for me.

Well looking back I wonder why they charged me the same fee to embalm him as they do adults. From a consumer perspective this doesn't make sense. He was extremely tiny and couldn't possibly have used the same amount of resources and effort.

Am I unjustly upset about it? Is it normal to have flat fees for things like that? (It's hard to tell sometimes if I am being irrational or not because of the nature of the loss)

And of course I can't get any money back or anything like that. I just don't want to sit around being mildly annoyed at someone if they didn't do anything wrong.

Thank you. That makes sense. I can now stop feeling cheated!