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What if one party, the cheater, feels awful and the couple goes through therapy, does the work, makes changes, tries to make amends... and the other partner just wants to bring up the violation and never move past it?

Thank you. This makes a lot of sense.

I love data science. I expect you'll continue to win because people won't put in the correct effort in picking their teams.

I'm curious, what % of fantasy sports teams are currently chosen algorithmically?

I play D&D with my wife.

In game - she is *always* shitting on my character. She says my character says dumb shit and I deserve it. If I say anything - she will interpret as the most negative way possible. For example. My character has never teleported, thought my character would be curious or anxious or something... so he asked the person who's running the spell about it - who happened to be female. I was accused of being sexist for "questioning" the woman mage. That I wouldn't have done it if the mage was male. I mentioned gender exactly zero times in the short session.
She just does this all the time and accuses me of playing characters that are misogynistic, which is wildly untrue (I literally state my characters are asexual because the other PC's are family members and it would be weird to get into sexual stuff).

I've told her about this a number of times of how it just kinda makes me feel misunderstood. Like - I don't know if she does it because others pile on because they think it's funny - but her original comments are always denigrating or taking my statements wildly out of context. I just don't have space to do anything creative.

I don't understand her motivations. She thinks she's in the right because it's my "character" whom she is interpreting as being a jerk. Nobody else seems to have a problem with my character - unless it's funny to pile on.

We don't talk like this outside of D&D. I don't get the same accusations.

What is with this game where she can get so negative... something we do for fun? I've already talked to her about it and she just doesn't seem to care since it's a game.

Good to hear. Lots of questions and same questions over and over is familiar to me - as well as couples and individual therapy.

Is 3 years long enough to process? At what point does one decide the other just isn't interested in trying to make things ok?