KohokuJack

My first two years in Japan, my friends and I used to frequent the local hostess/strip bars quite regularly. At around 8pm, there is actually no cheaper place to drink if you can enjoy whiskey.

Anyway, I am always surprised how intoxicating the women that work these places are. They are experts at making you feel like you're a Casanova, and they have an uncanny ability to talk excitedly about almost any topic. Coming from a pretty socially capable guy: It's hard not to feel like you've "got a connection" with one of these girls after sitting for an hour with them.

Questions:

1) Have you ever developed feelings for a client? I ask because one of my friends dated a girl he originally met at a hostess bar for a few months.

2) Do you maintain "business relationships" with repeat clients? I mean, do you text/talk to them on the phone, encourage them to come back?

3) Do you use your real name, or a fake name? Also, do you have a separate "work-only" cellphone that you use with clients?

I think it's an interesting culture, and I'm curious how similar your system is to the one's I've seen in Japan.

Thanks!

That sounds way better than the same conversations you probably have to go through 20x a week with your other, less weird customers.

You seem like a great guy. I'm sorry peoples' reactions to your weight have caused you to develop a fear of being around them. It's what people do, unfortunately. I was never fat, but just the same, bad people always honed in on anything I was self-conscious about.

I hope you lose the weight. You said at one point you dropped 150 pounds in five months. That's so awesome, because it proves you can do it. Even if visually that didn't seem like much, that was literally an entire persons-worth of weight you got off your frame. That's incredible that you could do that, even if you lapsed afterward.

Try your hardest. You have a choice to either die at 40, or be in a condition to actually be as physically active and attractive as you'd probably like to be. Good luck!