JaySuds

Adoptive dad of two here.

1. Get trained an in evidenced based model, like TBRI https://child.tcu.edu/about-us/tbri/

2. Make sure your relationship with your partner is tight. Any cracks in your relationship will be perceived and exploited by any kiddo in the system.

3. Read. A lot. Bruce Perry. Body Keeps the Score. Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control.

4. Understand that the complex, chronic trauma these older kiddos have endured has literally altered their brain structures.

5. Be prepared to have people give you all sorts of advice. Most people have no idea what it is to parent a kiddo who has endured complex, chronic developmental trauma. Pay no attention to most of the advice.

6. Learn how to work. the. system. Advocate aggressively and relentlessly for what your kiddo needs and what you need to make the placement successful.

7. Prepare to be sad when your begin to understand, at a visceral level, just how badly the system is fucked up.

Feel free to PM me if you want to discuss further.

Do the guests get any sort of discount for booking on ship with a fairly incompetent crew and invasion of their privacy?

And are the tips on that show typical for charters? Like $1500+ per crew for a few day charter?

Do people really pay their tips with a big pile of cash? Who the fuck just walks around with like $20K in cash??

Absolutely— good luck

My mother had cyberknife and several conventional brain surgeries for tumors. At the end of the day, all of this extended her life by several years. Cyberknife was done out at Stamford. This is apparently the best of the cyberknife centers, as it was the first, or so I recall. The conventional brain surgeries were done at several different facilities - Yale, a place in Long Island, and a place outside of DC.

Don't give up, go and get a second, third forth fifth opinion. Spend whatever it takes, fly around the country if you have to.

As the AMA has closed, I doubt you will see this, but here goes anyway. This morning, I observed two units go "code 3" - lights and sirens so that they could exit Breakfast King, stop moving traffic on Santa Fe, and cut across to Mississippi. Once they made it through the oncoming traffic, they killed their lights and sirens.

While I of course am not privy to what motivated them to go lights and sirens and interrupt moving traffic at rush hour, it seemed like they were just too impatient to actually wait for a break in traffic like every other law abiding citizen must.

What is the policy on these kinds of police maneuvers?