Hey, thanks for doing this Ama! Your podcast wasn't on my radar before but you've just gained yourself one more subscriber!
I have a question however it's a personal one rather than a general one; I'm unsure if it'll be suitable for what you're here for. If that's the case, I'll remove it 👍
I'm a 31yr old virgin. I'm not proud of it, but I'm not ashamed either. I don't feel like any less of a man or hyper masculine stuff like that. I've always tried to acknowledge sex & intimacy because it seems counter productive to pretend they don't exist. However I believe I could be so much more happier if I just didn't care about sex and lack of intimacy but no matter what, it's like a mindset I can't get away from.
If I could just not care I'd probably achieve so much and work towards being the person I want to be; and who knows, potentially solve the core issue too. What advice do you have to become comfortable with the loneliness?
I find it hard talking to people about virginity, as a guy everyone just dismisses it as being thirsty, being insecure, being juvenile and only wanting ‘one thing’. I'm not sad I've never had sex, but I'm really gutted I've never been intimately close with anyone. I wish it was a part of my brain I could switch off.
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Hey, thanks for doing this Ama! Your podcast wasn't on my radar before but you've just gained yourself one more subscriber!
I have a question however it's a personal one rather than a general one; I'm unsure if it'll be suitable for what you're here for. If that's the case, I'll remove it 👍
I'm a 31yr old virgin. I'm not proud of it, but I'm not ashamed either. I don't feel like any less of a man or hyper masculine stuff like that. I've always tried to acknowledge sex & intimacy because it seems counter productive to pretend they don't exist. However I believe I could be so much more happier if I just didn't care about sex and lack of intimacy but no matter what, it's like a mindset I can't get away from.
If I could just not care I'd probably achieve so much and work towards being the person I want to be; and who knows, potentially solve the core issue too. What advice do you have to become comfortable with the loneliness?
I find it hard talking to people about virginity, as a guy everyone just dismisses it as being thirsty, being insecure, being juvenile and only wanting ‘one thing’. I'm not sad I've never had sex, but I'm really gutted I've never been intimately close with anyone. I wish it was a part of my brain I could switch off.
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