Hulk_Lawyer

So, my wife is currently dealing with perimenopause. She just recently started seeing a mental health professional, and has been diagnosed with ADHD and an anxiety disorder.

Now I have been her safe space/outlet for irritability and bouts of anxiety for the span of our relationship. I'm pretty laid back and easy going and durable emotionally, so it's not a problem, or hasn't been in the past.

With the mood swings perimenopause has brought on, she's getting worse and it's becoming increasingly difficult to not respond back in kind.

Is there a technique or process by which I could let her know when it's getting too much without affecting her emotional state further?

Well I certainly bring my own problems to the relationship, so I don't want to appear like I'm petitioning for sainthood here. But I do feel like I've been at least an equal partner and tried to be helpful to her when she's needed it more often than not.

She does come from a traumatic childhood, which is one of the reasons why I have always tried to be her safe place to let out of the things she doesn't feel comfortable expressing to others. And as a result I don't think she would be very comfortable with me sitting in on any therapy sessions.

And no, nothing physical. Just, it's hard on her I know, but that doesn't necessarily make it any easier on me some days. Couples therapy is probably a good idea. I know it already, but I've just never pushed for it in the past. I'll try to pick a good day and maybe mention it and see where it lands. Appreciate the response.