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Personally, I found that in terms of work and career. Sometimes, people who are in a similar position to OP need to find a position where they need a lot of stimulating/fast paced work to just draw them into it. So, this could mean maybe working in a start-up type of situation where there's a lot of important things to do (Strategy, operations, etc... a lot of skills that can translate from gaming), but they make a huge difference since it's a start up. So you often see the fruits of your labor! Kinda like leveling up in a RPG.

Hey there, I'm not Dr. Mick, but I just wanted to share this resource with you if you're based in the US.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us

You can search with multiple filters like location, specialty, what kind of insurance they accept and etc. That said, finding a good fit for a therapist/becoming comfortable with them is going to take a bit of time and trial and error. Be a good friend to yourself and be kind to yourself while you take that first step. It's pretty intimidating, but it's a process that will help you.

Hey hey! Look who I found while scrolling on the front page of reddit!

Anyways, to actually contribute to the AMA with a question.

What do you generally recommend/try to teach/speak about with patients who have recently come to learn or be aware of the fact that their family/childhood was rather dysfunctional and thus their relationships in general have been suffering because of it? Subsequently, how do people better learn more about what healthy relationships with family, friends, SOs, etc. look like?

Whoa, chugging along with the replies. Thanks for the quick response.

Ahh interesting! If you don't mind a follow up, since people tend to seek out things familiar to them (familiarity principle/mere-exposure effect), how would you guide patients towards more healthy relationships if they have trouble and are repeating their old dysfunctional relationship dynamics?

Would it be learning what healthy relationships should look like and learning boundaries as you mentioned? If so, how would you help someone who has difficulty with forming and keeping healthy boundaries or maybe don't even know what healthy/reasonable boundaries are?