Happilymarriedman

Once had a kid puke in the queue at Pinocchio. It was a hot day and that queue is enclosed and kinda cramped. The stink spread fast and caused a domino effect of puking that rippled through the whole line. By the time the cleanup crew arrived everyone had fled the queue by any means possible and the floor was a swamp of partially digested Disney goodies.

This happened to me the year of the 25th anniversary at WDW, in line at Peter Pan's Flight. I started that waterfall. We all have our achievements

We are on the precipace of taking my wife's ex back to court over visitation with their son. The child is 14 next month, has HATED going to his father's house for visitation for as long as he can remember

It's not petty childish reasons either. First and foremost there were issues with the stepmother. She openly admitted not liking the son. She treats her children with preference and the step son, well like a step son.

There are HUGE issues with cleanliness. The son is a clean, by the book, rules appreciator. The biological father is lax at cleaning, at best. There are bugs, roaches, everywhere. The son refuses to shower or bathe over there as the conditions of the bathroom disgust him so. He states that he often wakes in the night because he can feel bugs crawling on him.

Additionally the bio-father has NO concern for the sons desires. Son has an activity that he wants to participate in on a weekend when he supposed to be at his dad's, often the answer is simply, "too bad." The son and his father have attended counseling together though little change has come from it.

We are fed up. This man consistently uses visitation like a tool to exert authority of his son. He does NOT have joint custody, only visitation and fails to consult the custodial parent (my wife) when needed, i.e. recent holiday weekend visit he attempted to negate wifes right to first refusal while he was at work. His solution was for his wife (from whom he is currently estranged, not living together, and going through divorce proceedings) to watch the son. He has frequently made medical decisions regarding the sons well being without consulting the custodial parent, allowed the boy to suffer overnight with a broken ankle, because HE (the father, no medical training) didn't believe it to be broken. The mother recieved a call the next morning that she should meet them at the hospital.

I could go on, but I digress it will only make me appear vindictive and unforgiving. Long story short my son would rather not attend overnight visitation. He would prefer to visit at his own pace and will. The ex is CONVINCED that my wife and I vehemently impunge his character to the son. This is not the case. We encourage the son to engage his bio-father in as many methods of communication as possible. He has simply lost his "oomph," to do so. At 14 he is amazingly cogniscent of the actual goings on regardless of what he is told. He has surmised and come to his own conclusions that his bio-father is a "bad" person, a habitual liar, and extremely manipulative. He has called his father out in this in therapy on multiple occassions, with no change in behavior.

We have a high priced attorney on retainer. She tells us that in our state, Oklahoma, the court cares little for the childs wants and without legitimate cause for concern there isn't much we can do but wait until he's eighteen.

Do you have any suggestions?

Before my last trip I did an insane amount of research and had some questions about "secrets" that I couldn't confirm.

• Can a person still enter one of the shops on Main Street and "wake" Tinkerbell?

• Are paintbrushes still hidden on Tom Sawyer's island? If you find one are you still given some form of a "prize?"

• We were in the parks on my wife's birthday, stayed on property, I made a point to inform the hotel of her day but, nothing special occurred. Does WDW no longer do the whole birthday bit?