DrChloeCarmichael

Here is a video of answer from live event- https://youtu.be/xDeh3U9QkXk Oh! That's an interesting question. Well, I think it's important to remember that I was a person before I was a relationship expert. So my interest in relationships... I experienced first as a person, and second as a psychologist. When I was a little girl I learned that the joy with a psychologist was that people would come and tell you all of their secrets. Of course, as a little girl I said "That sounds fabulous. That's what I want to do." I think I love learning about people because I love to connect with people. The skills and the tools that I have as a psychologist taught me to do that, but I'm always my person first.

If you're still learning to trust someone, you don't know them so well yet. In which case, there isn't a whole lot for you to be jealous of. You haven't yet established too much of a relationship with a person. You're presumably not even exclusive yet because you don't even trust the person.
I'm assuming then that you're experiencing jealousy a little bit intensely and maybe a little bit early.
If you're jealous of the other person being single and going out with others, my first suggestion is to ask them to be exclusive with you. But if the person says they're not ready for that, I would encourage you to date other people too.
In a behavioral sense, dating other people is a way to remind ourselves that we don't need to be so hyperfocused on a person if they're not ready for that kind of attention yet.

Oh, what a great question. I would trust, physical attraction - all these other things - but I think physical attraction and everything else actually dies without trust, because if you can’t at least know you're on the same page with somebody and that you're actually living the same moment together, that to me is where trust is essential. **Here's a video from this question on live event! https://youtu.be/j-G9Bpletps

I think it depends on why the relationship ended in the first place. For some people, I recommend people begin dating as soon as they want to. And that could mean the very next day. Could you could tell me more about your situation?

Here's a link to video from live event- https://youtu.be/E8qgwapQ_lI

I have to applaud you for your level of reflection and ownership of the fact that there's something about these women that you're seeking.
What makes you want to date these women? Do you go for women with depression because they seem helpless and this makes you feel powerful?