DrBritneyBlair_AMA

This is a huge part of why we built the Lover app…there is loads of material in there about sexual anxiety as well as scientific info on size and performance. Truth: the average ERECT penis is 4-6 inches. Sadly, most sex education comes from porn and porn stars are hired for performance and camera angles and medications make for very unrealistic size and staying power!

This is an important question. Sexual health problems are often the first sign that there are underlying medical problems and they also are a very common side effect of many medications. There are many things that contribute both positive and negatively to our sexual health but I always recommend getting a physical workup to make sure we clear other medical problems.

The “why” here is a bit too long to answer…but the reality is that most people on SSRI antidepressants will experience sexual problems. Problems with libido, arousal and orgasm. It SUCKS! Depression also sucks. The good news is that there are alternative medications that have fewer sexual side effects and there is some scientific evidence that certain medications (bupropion and sildenafil) can counteract the negative sexual impact of SSRIs. I’d recommend a chat with your prescribing doc. There are also super effective treatments for depression that do not involve medication though for some folks with depression, medication can literally be life saving.

This is a sensitive question. I am very pro-porn...but in moderation! There are studies that now seem to show an excessive use of porn may be linked sexual dysfunction including loss of sexual desire, delayed ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. I suppose it's like anything else, too much of a good thing is still too much. Try taking a break from porn for a few weeks and vary your masturbation routine and see what you discover in terms of desire and pleasure.

Porn can both be helpful and super unhelpful tool as it relates to sexual health. Porn is NOT sex education. Unfortunately, this is the most sex education many kids get. Porn is a performance. So, if you grow up thinking porn sex is the same as real-life-sex, you may be in for performance anxiety and disappointment. Kind of in the same way if you felt super hero shows are similar to walking through the world on a random monday. :-)