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My spouse's grandfather kept on calling someone in about bugs, it was dementia. He was treated with incredible compassion by the exterminator who was able to tell us that it was not bugs. He did things that made the grandfather feel better, gave us a heads up, and ended up not charging for at least one of the visits. He was a really good guy.

This is such an excellent point and it made me think about my work as a psychologist with veterans. They've had to do some pretty awful things and I was curious about the term moral injury.

And then recalled that I hear over and over that the mindset is 100% kill or be killed, or kill or my buddies will be killed. And that can be a protective factor for trauma associated with killing another human being. It is survival and they are very well trained for this mindset (and naturally, the brain kicks in with these survival responses)

So it's a very different dynamic and I can understand that as much as I can as someone who's never been in any of these situations myself

This AMA is by a Canadian group. The stats in Canada drastically need to be updated especially because we know men under report sexual assault.

Any Canadian context we need to use Canadian stats but also talk about the limitations of these stats, the definitions used, etc.

I know that the Alberta association of sexual assault services has been compiling demographic data From folks accessing counselling services for sexual violence across the province. This includes stats on offender gender.

What we see in these stats suggests that more men and boys are sexually assaulted than are reported in other stats, and more women and girls offend.

However, the limitations of this data is that it is collected solely from folks accessing sexual abuse/assault services. Are people who are offended against by women less likely to define what they experienced as sexual assault and therefore not access services, for example.

Totally valid.

My sister had hospice care in her home, with hospice nurses coming in (briefly) to give narcotics.

All we can do is learn and grow. Unfortunately a lot of us don't have the information we should about consent, trauma, mental health.

I like the wording of voluntary, enthusiastic consent. It makes things a little bit easier and involves reading body language in addition to verbal consent ( Which could include things like this feels good, I like it when you do this, etc)

In our relationships of all kinds not only sexual we all have likely violated other people's boundaries. We canlearn and grow and do better in the future.