I'm going to start by saying that you put your question across respectfully which should have been a good example to others. Sadly others who have the same question of you have been utter dicks in expressing it.
My mother had breast cancer and firstly as a sufferer you have to deal with the fact that you have a very tough road ahead, even in the best case scenario. My mother was lucky because her cancer was caught early but she was left with scarring from a partial mastectomy.
Now imagine the worst thing that's ever happened to you and imagine being reminded of it every time you take your clothes off. It's not easy to deal with. What makes it worse is that it's so directly connected to a part of your body that defines your femininity and it makes you feel like less of a woman.
That may sound strange and logically can be argued against but feelings aren't logical. I'm presuming that you're a guy, so imagine having your testicles removed - would you still feel manly without them?
What OP is pointing out is that many women who go through mastectomies don't feel fully feminine any more let alone sexy. Apart from awareness pictures of survivors and medical pictures there are no images of post mastectomy women, specifically post surgery women aren't portrayed as being sexy. Ever seen a post mastectomy woman in Playboy, Hustler or a Vivid video? It's never happened which reinforces to women who undergo the procedure that they are no longer attractive.
Yes OP has had implants, she didn't set out to be a crusader for a cause, she had the procedure then noticed that there isn't porn etc of women post mastectomy whether they've had implants or not.
If OP had posted pre reconstruction pictures then it may have put people off reading the thread as it can be a harsh sight. However, OP's body has allowed a lot of people to be eased into the reality of a breast cancer survivor's life post surgery.
Your suggestion that no one will see her missing nipples misses the point that there's a picture at the top of the page which has been seen by tens of thousands of people today alone. That image and the primarily overwhelmingly positive replies is probably very reassuring to other women that they won't necessarily be treated as a freak by future sexual partners, that they aren't deformed or seen negatively but yet are still seen as sexy and attractive. It also shows young men the reality of breast cancer and prepares them to be more supportive and understanding should they have relations with a survivor.
OP doesn't have to change society's opinions on mastectomies, breasts and objectification all in one stroke, even if just one woman feels better from OP's post then she's made a significant difference.
It's easy to nitpick and naysay from the sidelines, it's much more difficult to try and inspire people.
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I'm going to start by saying that you put your question across respectfully which should have been a good example to others. Sadly others who have the same question of you have been utter dicks in expressing it.
My mother had breast cancer and firstly as a sufferer you have to deal with the fact that you have a very tough road ahead, even in the best case scenario. My mother was lucky because her cancer was caught early but she was left with scarring from a partial mastectomy.
Now imagine the worst thing that's ever happened to you and imagine being reminded of it every time you take your clothes off. It's not easy to deal with. What makes it worse is that it's so directly connected to a part of your body that defines your femininity and it makes you feel like less of a woman.
That may sound strange and logically can be argued against but feelings aren't logical. I'm presuming that you're a guy, so imagine having your testicles removed - would you still feel manly without them?
What OP is pointing out is that many women who go through mastectomies don't feel fully feminine any more let alone sexy. Apart from awareness pictures of survivors and medical pictures there are no images of post mastectomy women, specifically post surgery women aren't portrayed as being sexy. Ever seen a post mastectomy woman in Playboy, Hustler or a Vivid video? It's never happened which reinforces to women who undergo the procedure that they are no longer attractive.
Yes OP has had implants, she didn't set out to be a crusader for a cause, she had the procedure then noticed that there isn't porn etc of women post mastectomy whether they've had implants or not.
If OP had posted pre reconstruction pictures then it may have put people off reading the thread as it can be a harsh sight. However, OP's body has allowed a lot of people to be eased into the reality of a breast cancer survivor's life post surgery.
Your suggestion that no one will see her missing nipples misses the point that there's a picture at the top of the page which has been seen by tens of thousands of people today alone. That image and the primarily overwhelmingly positive replies is probably very reassuring to other women that they won't necessarily be treated as a freak by future sexual partners, that they aren't deformed or seen negatively but yet are still seen as sexy and attractive. It also shows young men the reality of breast cancer and prepares them to be more supportive and understanding should they have relations with a survivor.
OP doesn't have to change society's opinions on mastectomies, breasts and objectification all in one stroke, even if just one woman feels better from OP's post then she's made a significant difference.
It's easy to nitpick and naysay from the sidelines, it's much more difficult to try and inspire people.
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