Cleanclock

I just want to tell you that I admire you and your husband so much, especially for turning your immeasurable grief into a force for good. I was in your bumper group (with a different u/) and had a baby at the same time as Lily, and your openness from the very beginning with living through your ordeal was truly awe inspiring. It was such a shock after a long, healthy pregnancy, when you got that diagnosis. How did you manage your anxiety of unknowns with your second pregnancy?

I’ll never forget Lily.

Occam’s razor: who had the most to gain from his death?

Did you always know what you wanted to do, or was it more a series of figuring it out along the way? How is your time divvied up (% teaching v. research v. mentoring v. writing grants etc), and how would you prefer it to be?