Chm_Albert_Wesker

did you come up with all of these questions one by one over the course of the ama, or write them all down so as to fire them off in a lightning fast volley of AMA genius?

YES on net neutrality.. internet should be a common carrier.. no one should be able to pay more to get their news, entertainment, political views, etc delivered more quickly.. no one, because of a lack of resources, should be stifled from being able to share what they’ve got.. all data traveling at the same speed.. good for freedom of speech, good for innovation, good for small businesses, good for our democracy

that's only half of net neutrality; it's not about paying more so you can share more, it's about paying more because you use more. if I use 10x more water than my neighbor, my water bills is higher. a company like netflix shouldn't be paying the same as TinyWebsite.com for using bandwidth/physical infrastructure when one clearly is generating all the traffic.

somewhere along the way companies like Google and Netflix (surprise surprise the biggest users) muddled the subject to be about censorship and consumers paying more when it's really a corporate issue

My recently ex-girlfriend suffers from a severe anxiety disorder. We recently were coming up on moving in together (we were long distance for 4 years) when she changed her mind about moving with me and wanted me to move up near her so that she wouldn't have to leave her family. However before she really gave me time to process reshaping my life, she broke up with me in an email and deleted me from all social media plus changed her number. Another important factor is that she started to see her old psychologist who she saw during a previous abusive relationship; I don't have any real information but I suspect in some way the psych had involvement at least in leading her thought process into cutting me out like this because her email was extremely clinical and didn't sound like her (and as I said I was with her for 4 years).

My question is how do I reach someone who acts like this at an emotional level who is doing something so self-destructive? I know it sounds like I must be leaving information out but it truly was such a drastic move with no real logical basis. I know that I was good to her and that this is a huge mistake but her family system will never confront her on this because she's so sensitive and she has essentially created a fake reality where she doesn't have to acknowledge the action itself by deleting me everywhere. For the record I would totally move up there for her but I needed time to consider moving my whole life. I also acknowledge that if she's removing me from everything, the step may unfortunately be that the ball is in her court and I can do nothing at all.

My follow-up question is then how do I find closure from something like this? I myself have my share of depression and mental illness and having someone who was my best friend/girlfriend literally cut me out of her life like this over virtually nothing has essentially changed my whole world view. I've heard some of the cliches about working on myself but there's not much to learn from the experience because the relationship was great until it wasn't this past month and my one fault was needing time to consider an important decision that would have affected both of our lives fiscally down the line. I can add more details if needed.