I just feel like I need to vent for once since I dont like talking about it when I'm sober. Only 3 of my friends knows this but my mom is suffering from dementia. My grandmother has it also. My mother and father separated when i was 21 and now I'm 24. I heard from my aunt that as my mothers dementia progressed it started messing with her head, as it does with my grandmother, making her distance herself from our family.
I was always a "momas boy" but nowadays I rarely see her. She lives alone about 3 km from me but i rarely visit her because every time I see her I know that she doesnt really have full control of her memories and it seems like shes ashamed of that. She doesnt know where I "hold up" nowadays and every time I see her it is like a kind of strained conversation. I know that she still loves me but she cant seem to express it, you could almost compare it to any time we talk it is like talking to an old classmate that you used to get along really well with but you havent seen eachother for a long time so you dont have much to talk about or something similar. I have 2 siblings and I sure as fuck dont want to be the one catching dementia of us when we get older. The worst part is that my mother is 60 and she still has some years left. Her medecine that was meant to slow down the dementia doesnt work as well anymore and I'm not sure if she even will remember me before she dies. Ive been in a carecenter for people suffering from dementia and it wasnt pretty so I really dont want her to be in a place like that.
So since this is an AMA thread i have to ask a question, so what is the most popular ice cream flavour among the elderly people suffering from dementia that you've met?
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I just feel like I need to vent for once since I dont like talking about it when I'm sober. Only 3 of my friends knows this but my mom is suffering from dementia. My grandmother has it also. My mother and father separated when i was 21 and now I'm 24. I heard from my aunt that as my mothers dementia progressed it started messing with her head, as it does with my grandmother, making her distance herself from our family.
I was always a "momas boy" but nowadays I rarely see her. She lives alone about 3 km from me but i rarely visit her because every time I see her I know that she doesnt really have full control of her memories and it seems like shes ashamed of that. She doesnt know where I "hold up" nowadays and every time I see her it is like a kind of strained conversation. I know that she still loves me but she cant seem to express it, you could almost compare it to any time we talk it is like talking to an old classmate that you used to get along really well with but you havent seen eachother for a long time so you dont have much to talk about or something similar. I have 2 siblings and I sure as fuck dont want to be the one catching dementia of us when we get older. The worst part is that my mother is 60 and she still has some years left. Her medecine that was meant to slow down the dementia doesnt work as well anymore and I'm not sure if she even will remember me before she dies. Ive been in a carecenter for people suffering from dementia and it wasnt pretty so I really dont want her to be in a place like that.
So since this is an AMA thread i have to ask a question, so what is the most popular ice cream flavour among the elderly people suffering from dementia that you've met?
PS: Dementia sucks. The end.
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