Chewitt321

Hey man, I've been there. I'm only 21 (and 5 6ths!) but I was somewhat nervous with girls and sex, due to lack of experience the first couple of times, but after that, I grew in confidence in the bedroom when in a relationship for a couple of years.

When I was single after that, the idea of sex was a little daunting again, and I'd be nervous I wouldn't get hard, and that often meant I would struggle to.

The things that affected me were:

That there was still an emotional connection to my ex, so the idea of doing something with someone else didn't appeal much. I also was aware that I needed more of a connection to the new people, both emotional and just personally - I realised I needed to get to know people first. As well as these, after being aware and nervous of it flopping, I would then worry about it flopping and that wouldn't help.

The thing that helped me was trying to establish a personal connection with someone and wait for an emotional connection before doing something. But in terms of more direct, and short term things - just talk to them, explain it may not go smoothly, and learn to do things they'd enjoy - fingering, cunnilingus etc. and when you're ready, go for it. The open communication might help get some of the worries out of your head.

This ended up being a bit of a ramble, sorry, I'm tired, but I hope that helps a little. There's also the fact that condoms can get in the way, but I'll spare you that rant too unless you want it.

How much of your job is waiting around? Do you check in and chill on the carrier somewhere?

Ah... That sucks... Will your next entrepreneurial step be to create a non-porn hating PayPal competitor? ;)

I'm currently studying Biology, and have an interest in protecting the environment and doing it in court sounds really appealing. Is there anyway to get from here to where you are? (I'm from the UK if that matters)

Can I get Claudia Winkleman's number?