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Think about being tickled. Some people hate it. Those people may be laughing when being tickled, but it is a deeply unpleasant experience for them. The body has certain automatic responses to certain physical stimuli. We laugh when we are tickled. It doesn't mean it is a nice experience, or that laughing indicates wanting it. It's just a thing the body does.

May I ask, super awkward chick who reads, what the last book you read was, and what the last great book you read was? Thanks!

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It's the simplest way I've heard this put. Thanks for raising it. I imagine there are a number of people reading this thread who will find some relief by being introduced to the ideas here. You're doing a good thing.

EDIT: I see a lot of people are expressing shock around this idea regarding children. Molesters will frequently stimulate a child during the act of rape. Often, this is to reinforce their delusion of consent or enjoyment by the child. Survivors will often describe feeling immense distress as a result of their bodies responding during the abuse. This is why the tickling analogy is good. Most of us get it that we are not laughing with pleasure during tickling, just as a child victim is not orgasming with pleasure during abuse. It is also VERY important for pedos to understand this in order to combat any wishful thinking they may seek to delude themselves with.

It is not uncommon for a victim to experience orgasm. I hope you know that. This can be very confusing to the victim, and also help the rapist play into their fantasy that the victim is enjoying it.

It isn't enjoyment in the way we would normally understand it. It is merely an involuntary physical response to a certain stimulus. The complication is that it is a response we normally associate with pleasure.

A good analogy is that people laugh when being tickled, even if the sensation of being tickled is deeply unpleasant to them. It's possible to tickle someone to the point of pain, with them still laughing on the outside as an involuntary physiological response.

I hope you don't feel shame about this aspect of your trauma.

EDIT: point not paint, as moganine paints out.

Can't argue with that!