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CartoonCocks182 karma

This is not video game-related but I'd like to ask you. I've been struggling lately with discerning whether or not I'm having/developing a porn addiction. Mainly I am unsure of what makes something truly an addiction in the first place. My idea of an addiction is when you feel an urge, a need, a craving. I honestly can't say I feel anything like that with pornography (other than the normal moments of high sexual tention or arousal). But on the other hand, it is worryingly easy for me to just decide I want to watch porn (out of pure boredom mostly, or lack of willingness to do something more productice) and just as hard for me to prevent that. That leads to periods of me watching porn even in multiple sessions for multiple hours a day.

TL;DR I don't feel a real craving for porn but it's really hard for me to control myself and it can get out of hand once I start enjoying it. Do I have an addiction?

CartoonCocks69 karma

I feel it's more like my brain seems to recognise it as the easiest, simplest way to get, as you said, a hit of dopamine and also entertain itself and fill up time. It's not that I don't have other things to do or think about, it's just that once porn comes to mind (or I run into something arousing) and I'm not currently engaged in any other activity, it's almost like the natural thing to do. Lately I often don't even feel like I'm even making a full conscious decision, it just kind of happens. The biggest problem is that it can get in the way of what I actually want or need to do.

CartoonCocks28 karma

While I agree it does resemble this, I also think my porn problem is largely a mere manifestation of my laziness, which is something I forgot to mention. I'm not trying to deny that this might be problematic, but I know that when I, e.g. go on vacation, I can easily do several days with barely even thinking about it. When my mind is healthily occupied, It doesn't present much of a problem. But it is in times when I'm at home, when I can't get myself to do something healthy or productive, when I'm generally being lazy, that's when the porn kicks in. Then it takes up more time and energy than it should and ends up messing up my day and my plans. The situations and motives vary, of course, but this is mainly what it looks like.