Capt_Tattoo

How did you justify to yourself being with someone who’s beliefs are so abhorrent? Your FAQ touches on it a bit but when you say “People thought that I was just looking the other way at his fascism because he was hot, or they thought I was an outright Nazi-sympathizer” when you talk about losing friends the wording seems like that it was just what people thought and not true. I don’t think you are a sympathizer but how can you say it wasn’t looking the other way to fascism?

You also said you figured out he was fascist after your second interview, but your also say your friends left before that cause they knew he was fascist. Did you not talk about those type of things with him?

But he still very publicly used white supremacist rhetoric and dog whistles. And supported fascist ideologies, what made you believe him over your friends who said otherwise. You say he increasingly radicalized to white supremacy, do you think he was not before? Do you think that your shared beliefs with him (libertarianism) and shared race made you more sympathetic to his more extreme views? Or do you think your infatuation with him made you unable to see the situation properly, a lot of what you say seems more of rationalization to yourself for being with him and not a true answering of the questions of how one can be with a white supremacist without supporting it knowingly or unknowingly.

The way you speak of him still does not sit well with me, and frankly seems to perpetuate the fetizisatish and sympathy for fascists.

I appreciate your responses and what you are doing for victims of domestic abuse. That being said I don't think you are quite the ally of those who are oppressed by white-supremacy or as much of an opponent to fascism as you might think you are. Its good to see you say you are committed to extricate yourself form that psychological state, but I think its a bit irresponsible to publish a book before you've gotten to that point.

This is a good video talking about an article on "befriending neo-nazis". I think it explains better than I can in a comment on why publishing media "normalizing" fascism is dangerous. You see people in the comments here saying "If you haven't been in love before you wouldn't understand", so clearly speaking of your relationship is humanizing him and his views. I hope you realize why this a point of privilege for you and not something I or any other POC can sympathize with.

Hi, I have the exact same condition, it's fairly bad and affects my breathing. I am in my 20s now and it's kinda too late to use the brace to fix it so I'm just stuck with it and absolutely hate it. I had a lot of problems with doctors knowing what it is and how to treat in and insurance not paying for test because they considered it all "cosmetic".

I guess my questions are did you have problems going through the process of getting the process started? And how did you deal before with your self image before hand?

Thank you! Keep being awesome!!!