CanadianFemale

what if both of you took DBT and got some couple's counselling? Your wife is only going to improve if she does the work. But toxic relationships take two people with unhealthy skills in order to continue. If both of you took DBT, then you could both do the work and support each other. It would soon become apparent whether your wife or you or both are willing or unwilling/unable to do the work to become a healthy person and part of a healthy relationship. (I wrote unable because insight is required in order to be able to see value in doing the work.)

there is r/dbtselfhelp here on reddit as well

r/dbtselfhelp

it's unfortunate that DBT is difficult to find in your area. I hope you and your wife find the path that's most healthy for you both. Good luck.

r/dbtselfhelp