I'm sure you've experienced some crazy situations, but here is one I have been trying to assist with for a a while. It is a long story, so I will keep it short and I am changing the names, in case anyone recognizes the story.
Mike (now 15 years old) broke his neck in a car accident (His dad was driving) nine years ago as a child. He died at the scene, but was revived during the life flight. While he was dead, he says he had an out of body experience and went to heaven and met Jesus. Jesus talked to him and shared some things, which He told him not to tell anyone other than those he trusted. Mike's injuries resulted in being a very high-level quadriplegic and he depends on a ventilator to breathe to this day.
After Mike recovered enough, he confided his out of body experience to his parents. Mike's dad went on to write a book about what happened the day of the accident and has made a lot of money from the book. Mike and his mom have been opposed to the book since the beginning, because they did not think it was something they should make money off of. Mike's dad travels around promoting the book and speaking at churches across the country.
Mike's mom is his sole care provider, which, as you can imagine, is a very demanding role. The father does not contribute to Mike's care at all. Being that his mom takes care of him, she has no source of income. Mike's dad has separate bank accounts so he controls the money and he gives her a small allowance to pick up groceries, but does not give her any other access to money.
Mike's dad is extremely controlling and narcissistic. He and his wife get in arguments a lot and he will discredit her in front of his friends so they will not believe what she says. Mike and his mom have tried speaking out against the book through social media (on the book's Facebook page and the books website in the comments section) on a couple occasions, but Mike's dad deleted their comments and banned them from posting on the pages.
On top of this, Mike has younger siblings, of which, the second oldest is the dad's "favorite." I will call this sibling Chris. Mike's parents have not slept in the same room for years, mostly because she needs to be in Mike's room in case he needs her in the middle of the night. Over the last few years, Mike's dad has been sleeping in the same bed as Chris and will often be up with him at all hours of the night. Mike's mom has even told me that she has gotten up in the middle of the night to let the dogs out, and she has seen her husband coming back inside with Chris after being out in his barn/office at 3 AM.
The mom has no proof of any abuse, but the red flags are very evident. She has called anonymously to family services, but she does not want to raise any alarm without proof, for fear of doing more damage to the family. Since she is the only care provider for Mike, she's not able to get up and go talk to a lawyer or professional about things, and she definitely does not want her husband finding out. She also does not want to take this to court right now because of her lack of evidence and for fear of it being dragged out over the course of a few years. Mike's dad feels completely justified and invincible about writing and promoting this book. His church backs him, because they do not know the truth. The dad is extremely verbally and mentally abusive, but knows not to hit her because she will call the police.
This was longer than I intended, but there are so many things to this story. Thanks for any suggestions you may have that I can relay to her.
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I'm sure you've experienced some crazy situations, but here is one I have been trying to assist with for a a while. It is a long story, so I will keep it short and I am changing the names, in case anyone recognizes the story.
Mike (now 15 years old) broke his neck in a car accident (His dad was driving) nine years ago as a child. He died at the scene, but was revived during the life flight. While he was dead, he says he had an out of body experience and went to heaven and met Jesus. Jesus talked to him and shared some things, which He told him not to tell anyone other than those he trusted. Mike's injuries resulted in being a very high-level quadriplegic and he depends on a ventilator to breathe to this day.
After Mike recovered enough, he confided his out of body experience to his parents. Mike's dad went on to write a book about what happened the day of the accident and has made a lot of money from the book. Mike and his mom have been opposed to the book since the beginning, because they did not think it was something they should make money off of. Mike's dad travels around promoting the book and speaking at churches across the country.
Mike's mom is his sole care provider, which, as you can imagine, is a very demanding role. The father does not contribute to Mike's care at all. Being that his mom takes care of him, she has no source of income. Mike's dad has separate bank accounts so he controls the money and he gives her a small allowance to pick up groceries, but does not give her any other access to money.
Mike's dad is extremely controlling and narcissistic. He and his wife get in arguments a lot and he will discredit her in front of his friends so they will not believe what she says. Mike and his mom have tried speaking out against the book through social media (on the book's Facebook page and the books website in the comments section) on a couple occasions, but Mike's dad deleted their comments and banned them from posting on the pages.
On top of this, Mike has younger siblings, of which, the second oldest is the dad's "favorite." I will call this sibling Chris. Mike's parents have not slept in the same room for years, mostly because she needs to be in Mike's room in case he needs her in the middle of the night. Over the last few years, Mike's dad has been sleeping in the same bed as Chris and will often be up with him at all hours of the night. Mike's mom has even told me that she has gotten up in the middle of the night to let the dogs out, and she has seen her husband coming back inside with Chris after being out in his barn/office at 3 AM.
The mom has no proof of any abuse, but the red flags are very evident. She has called anonymously to family services, but she does not want to raise any alarm without proof, for fear of doing more damage to the family. Since she is the only care provider for Mike, she's not able to get up and go talk to a lawyer or professional about things, and she definitely does not want her husband finding out. She also does not want to take this to court right now because of her lack of evidence and for fear of it being dragged out over the course of a few years. Mike's dad feels completely justified and invincible about writing and promoting this book. His church backs him, because they do not know the truth. The dad is extremely verbally and mentally abusive, but knows not to hit her because she will call the police.
This was longer than I intended, but there are so many things to this story. Thanks for any suggestions you may have that I can relay to her.
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