BonetaBelle

How many dates should you go on with someone who’s got the same values as you but who you don’t have amazing chemistry with?

Size doesn’t really matter for show jumping in the way that it matters for racing, no.

Firstly, the sports are different. Show jumping is not an endurance sport nor is it about raw speed. Precision, communication and control matter for show jumping. Horses that do show jumping are very strong, to the extent that someone being average or above average height is not going to really effect their performance.

In addition, the horses are different. Race horses are Thoroughbreds, who are very light and delicate "hot" horses. Show jumping horses are Warmbloods, which, if you go far back enough in their lineage, are a cross between "hot" Thoroughbred or Arabian horses for speed and "cold" heavy draft horses for strength. Show jumping horses have a lot more muscle mass than Thoroughbreds as a result.

As a result, professional riders in the two different sports have very different looks.

The average height for a jockey is 5’2” and weight is 108-118lbs.

The average height of a show jumper is probably closer to 5’9” and they’re all fit but not super slim. Being overweight would be a disadvantage because it effects your balance negatively, but being tall and fit is not a disadvantage.

Ian Millar is 6’1” and he was one of the best show jumpers in the world before he retired. Henrik von Eckermann won team gold at the last Olympics and he is also 6'1". Ben Maher won individual gold at the last Olympics and he is 6'. Martin Fuchs is ranked #2 in the world and he is 6'. Etc.

A lot of the best female riders are also above average height for women - Beezie Madden is 5'6", so is Jill Henselwood, and Tiffany Foster is 5'8".

I’m Canadian - the government did secretly sterilize First Nations women. Our government also forced First Nations parents to send their children to residential schools to be raised by priests and nuns, where sexual and physical abuse was absolutely rampant. Parents often only got to see their children a few weeks a year. Or less. Our government treated our First Nations people absolutely horribly.

In addition to what everyone else has said, he acknowledged that the evidence against him was “clear and convincing”. She had injuries to her neck from the incident.

No where in the article does it mention that she had assaulted him. He didn’t even claim self-defence. Why are you making up excuses someone who plead no contest to domestic violence?

That’s really egregious. I’m sorry. I’d assume she’s going through some kind of personal issue or insecurity, it’s obviously not something you did.

The only time I’ve wanted to ghost someone after a few months was when I got too in my own head - it’s not about you. Still sucks though.