I'm hoping you can help me with a tricky situation.
My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year and half now. She has a really bad relationship history including tons of gaslighting and abuse. In addition, she deals with ADHD and depression.
That said, I feel like a lot of her past is taken out on me. She gets defensive and shuts down whenever I bring up an issue. I know a lot of this is likely caused by her past trauma, but I don't know how to get through to her without being accused of gaslighting.
How can I be a more thoughtful boyfriend while also standing my ground? I want to understand her while also being understood myself.
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I'm hoping you can help me with a tricky situation.
My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year and half now. She has a really bad relationship history including tons of gaslighting and abuse. In addition, she deals with ADHD and depression.
That said, I feel like a lot of her past is taken out on me. She gets defensive and shuts down whenever I bring up an issue. I know a lot of this is likely caused by her past trauma, but I don't know how to get through to her without being accused of gaslighting.
How can I be a more thoughtful boyfriend while also standing my ground? I want to understand her while also being understood myself.
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