Angelbabysdaddy

I find this quote by him very beautiful.

“We are going to die, and that makes us the lucky ones. Most people are never going to die because they are never going to be born. The potential people who could have been here in my place but who will in fact never see the light of day outnumber the sand grains of Arabia. Certainly those unborn ghosts include greater poets than Keats, scientists greater than Newton. We know this because the set of possible people allowed by our DNA so massively exceeds the set of actual people. In the teeth of these stupefying odds it is you and I, in our ordinariness, that are here.We privileged few, who won the lottery of birth against all odds, how dare we whine at our inevitable return to that prior state from which the vast majority have never stirred?”

― Richard Dawkins

I'm adopted myself. The main thing I would consider is don't treat a Foster/adopted child any different than your natural children. No lesser Christmas presents, more chores than the other. I was forced to do my homework at the kitchen table every night when the others weren't. I was blamed for everything that broke or was damaged whether I did it or not. I was forced to keep my room spotlessly clean when the others were a disater. When my parents went out of town for the weekend, I was forced to go to Grandma's while the others stayed home alone even though the age difference was only 6 months a 2 years. Every year, even well into my mid-teens I was forced to go to summer camp while the others didn't have to go. The last 4 years I went I hated it.The last year I went I was like almost the oldest kid in camp surrounded by 10 and 12 year olds. I grew up thinking I was less important than the other children. This applies to step-families, too. Please, just treat them the same. I'm 49 now and believe it or not, when talking about it, it still fucks me up.

Undocumented

Please stop using this word. Use the more correct word of 'Illegal'.

No, the parents sign them over to a flight attendant at the gate and the flight attendant is repsonsible for them until signed over to whoever they are flying to who will also meet them at the arriving gate. If they have a layover then they are taken to a waiting area specifically for them and signed over to another responsible person who will ensure they get on their next plane. If they have a direct connecting flight then the flight attendant will take them to the next gate and sign them over to a flight attendant on that flight. They are closely monitored the whole time. You DO NOT want to lose a kid during all this.

I've had a lot of years to reconcile that with myself. I'm always still healing a little bit and I never think about it until something like this thread comes up.