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I'd also like to see this answered. My mom's undergoing treatments for stage IIB breast cancer right now and I want to be loving and supportive and encouraging but she's going through a whole range of emotions. Which I totally understand. But she's so angry at everything lately, which I know is part of how people deal with trauma. Unfortunately I'm catching all the blowback from it because I'm her only child and the one that's taking care of her. I haven't said anything because I feel like a horrible human being for even entertaining the thought of saying, "Hey I know you have cancer and all but could you take it down a notch." My mom's never mean, she's normally the kindest person you could imagine and I'm having a hard time handling this because it's more than anxiety she's almost cruel for lack of a better word.

I'd just like to know what a patient would like to hear from their caregivers. I'll take any suggestions at all. What would be supportive? What would be helpful? Reassuring? I know I can't say anything that will "make it better" but what can I say that will help her work through what she's feeling?

Thank you and I hope your treatment is going well. So this is probably going to sound stupid but I'm not the best at social interactions. What do you think would be an acceptable alternative to "everything is going to be fine"? I've tried things like "I can't imagine how that must feel" or "That must be frustrating" or "Well that sucks" depending on the topic. I tried asking her one time how something made her feel and she said I sounded like a bad cartoon of a therapist and made her feel like she should be laying on a psychiatrist couch.

If you'd had a say in the matter what would you have wanted your family members to say to you? Or would you have preferred they remain silent and just nod and listen?

I go with her to all her appointments and I'm going to make sure it gets brought up at her appointment next week. Our problem isn't so much the stigma (I'm bipolar so she's used to the mental health circus as it were and it doesn't bother her). The real problem I'm worried about is it's a minimum six month wait in our city right now to get an intake appointment with a counselor or therapist because absolutely nobody's accepting new patients. Hopefully her oncologist will have some in-roads somewhere...the team seems to be very holistic and it feels like mental health should be an integral part of cancer treatments.

I know there's a nurse navigator that we met at her first appointment. I've got her card somewhere buried in all the stuff I've acquired from her appointments. I'm not sure about social workers though so I'll ask about that. Thanks for the suggestion that's really helpful.

So what do you guys think about what's going on with Kojima and Konami? First we get screwed out of Silent Hills and now Konami has allegedly filed a false DMCA takedown of the video by Super BunnyHop discussing the issue.