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1dumho5 karma

Mom of 4 here. I've been at home for almost 7 years taking care of children full time. I'm aware that this time is traditionally not the most ideal mentally for the stay at home parent. The problem that I am having is regulating my emotions on the days when I am overwhelmed with kids 24/7, homeschooling and zero time for myself.

Before coronavirus my 2 oldest were in school, leaving me with the 2 toddlers which I could easily manage. I was even able to workout a few times a week. No more. Now it's 24/7 and most days I'm okay with that. There are days, however, when I do not want to do it, at all. Is there any CBT that I can practice to help me on these days? Usually those negative days devolve into utter chaos leaving me drained beyond belief then I feel guilty about not being a quality parent for my kids.

1dumho1 karma

Congratulations on the sleeping baby! Those are the days. Seems like mine hardly sleep these days. They do but with 4 it's almost never at the same time (teething, nightmare, ADHD kiddo, etc.). The struggle is real!

I really appreciate this information! I have the presence of mind to know when I need a 20 second breather. My frustration is rooted in my inability to go with the flow. I'm old hat but I still get very frustrated. The homeschooling doesn't help. I just finished my degree in December after 5 years of full time coursework, now it's back to school. CBT works and I will be utilizing this on my hard days.

On a side note, before kids I completed yoga teacher training during another difficult time in my life. It comes in handy when I am present enough to use the teachings. Some of the kids are receptive to yoga which is encouraging.

1dumho1 karma

I'm 36 and almost finished with my undergraduate in accounting and financial management. I chose this degree because of past experience and a genuine need to work in a telecommute capacity. I have been a stay at home mom pursuing my degree since 2014. I recently found out my husband and I are expecting another child (unexpectedly) which is altering my previous plan, delaying more so. Would you suggest I continue my education to gain CPA credentials or look for some part time work experience after I receive my degree? I can only do one with my family obligations.